Teen women ask the question why do women hate me? Women who hate other girls at the deepest level of the subconscious have unresolved conflicts with their mothers, grandmothers, aunts, or female caretakers who abandoned, abused, or neglected them mentally, emotionally, or physically.
Little girls increased by emotionally unstable mother amounts never learn to love or trust other girls. However, please remember it is challenging and hard for a mother to raise her daughter to love and esteem; girls if she hasn’t learned this lesson himself. Society put so much pressure on mothers to be perfect, unlike dads. You will find saying for example, “As precious as a mother’s love” or “The kid has a face that only a mother could love.”
People tell “Your Mama” jokes since the expectations for dads are so low that there’s nothing hurtful or funny that anybody could say about dads that would result in an emotional reaction. When athletes accomplish an remarkable fete or entertainers accept awards, they admit their moms. Mothers receive all of the glory and blame for how their children’s lives finally turn out.
Society put women on an unrealistic base that cause women to try for an illusion of perfection that’s humanly impossible. And if this hefty emotional and societal aim isn’t met, we learn to hate and blame other girls – and subconsciously ourselves. It’s extremely common to hear girls say,”I do not trust girls!” “Females are fake.” Women declare that other girls are treacherous, two-faced, backstabbers, who sleep with other women’s boyfriends and husbands.
Women brag about hating other women rather than having females as best friends because girls are aggressive, devious, and jealous-hearted. Girls raised in homes with emotionally unstable mothers who bring abusive relationships with men have a tendency to have a tough time establishing healthy relationships with men and women. The mother is teaching her daughter that she’s worthless and unlovable once the mother allows a guy to verbally, emotionally, and/or physically abuse her.
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The mother is a role model to her daughter and she’s indirectly teaching her how to allow men to treat her in a relationship. Additionally, in many houses riddled with domestic violence, the guy may also abuse the children. When kids don’t feel protected, secure, loved, and admired by their caregivers they have difficulty developing healthy relationships with others throughout their lives. Women raised in homes with mothers perceived as being promiscuous may find it hard to trust other women because of the double standard regarding female and male sexuality. Men and women alike are more likely to judge critically the women’s role in having a affair with a married man than attributing the husband for cheating.
People learn how to see themselves through the eyes of different men and women. Little women see themselves as reflections of the mother, if people view their mom as being a whore, slut, or tramp-the daughter starts to identify with this persona-even if it is incorrect. Subsequently, this becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. She would rather be the man-stealing woman who’s the predator– compared to the supposed unattractive, mad, victim-woman at home who could not keep her man loyal. Both are negative personas of both femininity and womanhood which make it hard for women to establish loving and supportive relationships with one another.
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Little girls that are molested or sexually abused by relatives, step-fathers, biological fathers, boyfriends, or close relatives and neighbors have a propensity to blame their mothers for failing to protect them from the abuser. Even if it is not the mother’s fault-and she isn’t aware that her child has been sexually abused– many kids still believe their mothers failed to recognize behavior changes that indicated some kind of injury had taken place. Women are expected to see the hidden and know the unknowable. And if they fall to recognize the pain, shame, and fear concealed behind their children’s eyes, buried under their souls-society’s psychologists, therapists, and counselors first question is: “Did you tell your mom?” The question is loaded with accusatory consequences of: if your mom does not understand was she such a”bad mother” you could not tell her? Your relationship with your mother still comes into question as contributing to your emotional health and general wellbeing.
Mothers, who hate their bodies, have negative or bad body image, or who are obsessed with looking young often have daughters who know to feel exactly the same way for their bodies. Children learn how to enjoy themselves through their parent’s eyes. If a mother does not like her nose, and her daughter feels that she has the exact same nose as her mother-the little girl learns from her mother that something is wrong with her nose also. That she isn’t beautiful-not great enough–unless she changes her nose.
Spiritual growth plays out through the human DNA. For instance, if a mother hates her body size and contains cosmetic surgery to change her appearance-her DNA code may still express itself through her daughter. What will she say to her daughter who’s trying diet after diet– but continues to fail to be a dimension which she was never born to be? The love or hate we feel about ourselves is displayed through our kids.
Even if our children aren’t born from our own bodies they still take the DNA in their mother’s spirits. How their mothers look in their eyes, cuddle together, caress them, kiss them, feed them, take care of them, read to them, tell them how much they love them not-this is what encodes children’s internal behaviour for self indulgent, self-worth, and self-esteem. Mothers that are flirtatious with their daughter’s boyfriends, dad’s friends, or who appear to thrive on being the middle of male attention occasionally cause young girls to believe that they’re unworthy, insignificant, and imperceptible unless their self-worth is supported by a guy.
The daughters learn how to objectify themselves and see their own self-worth, self-esteem, and feminine-value how much care is”paid” to her by men. Some moms display behaviours that may indicate they are jealous and envious of the daughter’s youth and beauty. Girls who grow up in homes with mothers that are aggressive with their wives by wearing the same clothing, makeup, i.e. style generally; who brag about being a smaller size, or attempt to dress and behave like a teenager rather than an adult woman– raise girls who feel insecure in their femininity and physical attractiveness.
Mothers who withhold affection, who are distant or critical tend to increase brothers who struggle with relationships with female authority figures. They’ll find themselves being people-pleasers; subconsciously looking for the acceptance of the nothing is ever-good-enough moms. Women who hate women in this class have the most problematic relationship with other girls because they love and hate their mothers alike.
These mothers are usually perfectionists who demand that their wives play their mouths shut; never spill ketchup in their dress; and always sit with their legs shut. The perfectionist mother gives her daughter everything that she needs financially and physically–the only thing that she’s incapable of giving her daughter is unconditional love and approval. Mothers who have tumultuous relationships with their own mothers have a propensity to have antagonistic relationships with their wives. If the mother wasn’t raised in a household where she had been taught how to get along with other women-this could just be a social skill that she’s lacking.
In some households, girls refer to each other as bitches and other derogatory names. Wear one another’s clothes and shoes without consent. All these behaviours are perceived as being”normal”. They’ve been conditioned to think that this is how girls should get along. When girls have daughters that is when the world is giving them an opportunity to reassess what it means to be a woman– to be a part of a sisterhood that’s been oppressed for centuries.
They’re being asked to take stock of their assets and obligations of the paradigm of womanhood and femininity for another generation of women.
- What changes can I make in my own which will give my daughter(s) chances that I never had?
- In what ways have I never truly loved and admired myself that could be reflected back to me through the eyes of my little girl?
- What did I love about the connections with the girls in my family?
- What do I hate about the connection with the girls in my family?
Their relationship with their mother could be strained for some reason mentioned in this guide or several other reasons. But the main reason is that the mother lacks a role model of what healthy relationships look like involving girls. Women who were placed for adoption have a tendency to resent their mothers but not their fathers. I had a customer who was embraced tell me”How can I expect anyone else in this world to love me when the girl who carried me inside of her body for nine months, pushed me from her anus –looked at me as an innocent toddler baby-and still decide that she didn’t love or want me.”
She sobbed for 10 minutes or more after stating this. Her pain made my heart ache. The biological duty that Mother Nature has given to women to protect, cultivate, and increase the human soul is a spiritual mission that lots of women in contemporary society have abandoned.
The Mainstream Media dissuade Mothers and Daughter from getting together. Sometimes the mainstream media portray teenage daughters and middle-aged moms as natural enemies-one is emerging into her”idealistic portrayal” of mainstream and fertility beauty and another exiting. There are many mothers and daughters that are very near who describe their relationships as being “unnatural” because middle-aged girls and teenage girls aren’t supposed to get together. Some women are only playing out an indirect anticipated social pattern of behaviour that they think is normal.
However, as soon as they get together and actually communicate, many moms and daughters learn they have more in common with each other than not in common. And they truly enjoy one another’s company. Sometimes we overlook the social media thrives on conflict. Movies and televisions shows will be dull without antagonists. Advertisers want women to feel unbeautiful and older so as to sell makeup, fashion, and hair care products. Women are being conditioned to think that they are in competition with every other-mothers against brothers, sisters against sisters- and so on.
Through the start of human history countless women are hurt, beaten, beheaded, raped, shunned, molested, abused, over-looked, denied opportunities, oppressed, put-down, unloved, and unappreciated that you exist in this moment in time. Regardless of what her race, nationality, creed, or religion is quietly thank her and give her voice she never had. You’re the breathing reality of her dream. You’re her little girl she wanted to maintain safe-but could not. You’re her sister who has carried the torch of humanity from the trenches of male domination and oppression throughout the uterus of hope, faith, and grace. Honor her by promising to salute softly the celestial goddess in every woman you meet. In your own way, send her love, light, and forgiveness. Acknowledge the oneness in most girls around the world. Honor, cherish, and observe the collective sisterhood of humankind. Keep it simple. Keep it honest.